The Good Grief Blog — Pregnancy + Infant Loss

My Top 6 Grief Essentials

Melissa Sulley Grief Miscarriage Pregnancy + Infant Loss Resources Stillbirth Support

My Top 6 Grief Essentials

We all will experience grief of sorts in our life and yet it is rarely talked about. So when we are confronted with grief we often don’t know how to navigate through it, we get stuck. I’ve been journeying through grief now for 12 years. My journey started when my step-father passed away suddenly in 2008 and has continued these past 6 years as I’ve navigated through recurrent second-trimester pregnancy loss. I’m well acquainted with grief; we’ve become good buddies butting heads every now and then.  As I’ve navigated through this journey here are a few things that have been...

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Book Resources

Melissa Sulley Pregnancy + Infant Loss Resources

Book Resources

I often get asked what books to give to a loss mom, or what books have helped me along my journey of loss and parenting after loss. Here are a list of the top books I've read and usually recommend to my followers.

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Leaning into the Pain

Melissa Sulley Pregnancy + Infant Loss

Leaning into the Pain

We were supposed to have our anatomy scan today. The clinic actually called yesterday to remind me, but what they didn’t know was we lost the babe 5 weeks ago.⠀ Reminders like this always catch me off guard. I’ll think I’m doing ok, and then I realize I’m not... and that’s ok. I spent the afternoon yesterday crying it out to sappy sad music.⠀ I’m trying to let myself feel it, amidst everything else that is going on in our world today, I'm trying to feel it. And it all feels so damn heavy.⠀ People losing babies, mothers dying during...

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Technically Still Pregnant

Melissa Sulley Missed Miscarriage Pregnancy + Infant Loss

Technically Still Pregnant

I’m technically still pregnant. Pregnant with a corpse; a shell of what once was.⠀ My body hasn’t registered our loss yet. She’s just going about her day, oblivious to the reality within her. ⠀ I guess she never got the paperwork.⠀ So I’ll wait with her.⠀ We are waiting and I am fighting for the care I know she needs.⠀ Amidst covid restrictions, and red taped ORs, I’m waiting to find someone who will take us in; someone who will save us the trauma and possibility of bleeding out at home.⠀ The reality is, first trimester loss isn’t ‘just a...

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Remembering Josiah

Melissa Sulley Pregnancy + Infant Loss Stillbirth

Remembering Josiah

It has been 5 years since my body first birthed death; since having to say hello and goodbye all in one breath.⠀ This boy made me a mother of sons, but I walked out of the hospital empty handed and broken hearted that weekend.⠀ I will never forget those moments. The moments of dropping my eldest son off at friends, so I could go to the hospital alone to birth a baby I knew I wouldn’t be taking home. The moments of calling my husband halfway around the world to tell him our son had died. The pain, and the...

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