Navigating grief + joy — faith

I'll say yes again - Kristin's Story

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I'll say yes again - Kristin's Story

That morning was like every other morning. My 2 year old and 7 month old woke us up and we all snuggled in bed together for as long as possible before getting up for the day. We got changed, brushed our teeth and headed downstairs. We made coffee and enjoyed a slow breakfast together. But then there was a knock on the door. It was the CAS worker coming to take our baby.   I’m Kristin and I’m a foster mom. We’ve been fostering for 2 years and have cared for 5 children since our home opened. I went into...

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One decade

Melissa Sulley faith Grief Loss Miscarriage Awareness Motherhood Parenting after loss

This past decade has been extremely painful and beautiful; full of grief and joy.   I graduated university. Left my church. Moved cities. Had my heart broken. Lost friends.   I fell in love with Hamilton. Found a new church. Made new friends.   I discovered the Holy Spirit. Lost my faith. Discovered new expressions of faith. Left the church again.   I became a wife and a mother.   I birthed both life and death.   I broke up with myself as I learned how to parent, and learned how to parent after loss, again and again and again....

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Sitting together

Melissa Sulley faith Grief Loss Miscarriage Awareness Parenting after loss

Sitting together

I’ve been reflecting a lot on what it means to wrestle together. To provide each other with the space and freedom to ask some of the deepest questions we have buried deep within.Grief has a tendency to cause these questions to bubble up, to rise to the surface until we cannot contain them anymore. Who is God really?Is he actually good?If everything happens for a reason, did God will my babies to die or did God cause x, y and z?Traditionally we have been taught to shove these questions below the surface. How dare we question the God of the...

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The Middle - Aly's Story

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The Middle - Aly's Story

Often, we hear stories about pregnancy loss after there’s a happy ending, redemption…a rainbow baby that eases the pain after the storm. There is a definite need for people to hear these stories. They have a place, and they give a sense of hope to families who have lost their unborn babies. These are the types of stories that got me through my first miscarriage. Knowing that this is fairly common (1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage), and that there was light at the end of the tunnel was promising.

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Becoming unpregnant

Melissa Sulley faith Grief Loss Miscarriage Miscarriage Awareness Missed Miscarriage Motherhood Parenting after loss Pregnancy and loss awareness Support

Becoming unpregnant

I walk a fine line between grief and relief. Grieving the life we lost, and yet relieved I’m no longer pregnant.Grieving the son we will never get to know, and yet relieved because I was terrified to parent three children on earth. I was excited to welcome a third babe on this earth, but I was terrified by how a third...

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